DREAD OF THE SHOWER
Hello fellow bloggers and Mindfulness peeps,
This situation is driving me bonkers. The revered Smithsonian magazine keeps sending me renewal forms when I have already paid. As it is we were getting two copies monthly after the balls-up they made the last time I dealt with them. I fear they will send three copies at a time. The doctors’ and dentists’ offices will be flooded with them. Does this happen to you?
shower the reason I am telling this is because I went on the Smithsonian site and I saw articles flashing past. One was entitled, “Why Mind Wandering Can Be So Miserable, According to Happiness Experts” by one of their staffers, Libby Copeland. She is gloomy and anxious at the prospect of a shower. It sound silly but maybe you can think of something you are irrationally afraid of. Libby is ripe for some Mindfulness training.
The article, written by a sceptic, concerns the times in our daily lives when we realise that the mind is trying, usually ineffectually, to deal with matters beyond our control. Some of your multitasking is easy (remember to post that birthday card for your sister) other problems seem to have no solution (if your mother needs a care package). Or a past thought might be,” I know she doesn’t like me because…”This is Unmindfulness. You cannot do anything about these things at the moment.
If you are driving your car, you will not remember any scenery or landmarks because you are never aware of your ‘present.’ You skipped past the buzzard hanging in the sky, the yellow gorse flowers persisting even in the coldest weather, the sign for the plowing contest next week and so on… This attention in the moment is Mindfulness.
Mindfulness helps us to notice things in the moment. Gorse flowers smell like coconut
Gorse flowers smell like coconut.
The scientists say that we spend 47% of our waking hours mind-wandering. Nearly half! I know my mind drifts off even when I am watching a movie thriller. I also know I used to be much worse when I was working a primary school teacher. I hardly ever got jobs done to my satisfaction. Then the tendency is to beat yourself up about it.
You will be interested to know that we pay most attention (I.e., showing Mindfulness) during sex. We spent the most 67% in grooming behaviours.
WANDERING IS WHAT MINDS DO. (Take this to heart)
So what about poor Libby? She knew that when she got in the shower, all her worst fears and worries would boil up. It had become a habit and so she hated showering. I think that is too bad because showers, except for baths, are the most calming, Mindfulness expressing things we can do for ourselves. I have to try out my disco spinning lights gadget my daughter gave me for Christmas. Promise you won’t put tealights around your bath!
Well, with anxious apprehension, Libby stepped into the shower. She kept her attention on her breathing and felt different.
“As she says, the trick is in recognizing the illusion—
“‘ah yes, there’s that ridiculous clown car of anxiety coming down the road again.
The saving grace, when I can manage to focus, is the present moment. ”