Bulgy belly is Better

Flat tummies are out!

When and where did I (you) learn about the need to suck your gut in to look your best?

For me, it must have been with my mother’s milk. Anyway, I took it to heart and did not think about it.

It was quite annoying and uncomfortable as I have always had a pot. Maybe because I am a pipsqueak, all my adult guts and appetite are squashed down there, able to expand in only one direction.

I have tried girdles and elasticated pantyhose. All I get is a pain in the belly until I take the damn thing off.

But until this week while researching this topic, I have been under the impression the flattest tummy was an ideal among the many other perfections women are conditioned to believe in this day and age.

Well, I can tell you to take a huge relaxed belly sigh with me …

Almost exclusively, I have been reading that holding in your stomach is totally bad for you. It mashes all your organs down there and causes poor digestion and discomfort. All the news about bulgy bellies being better health wise passed me by. (For many years my young family claimed all my energy, with nothing left for myself. I am not complaining because I am fanatically proud of how my two girls turned out – btw they were born with flat tummies!)

So now I can dump the flat belly myth right in the trash along with spiked heels. Sense prevails.

I read the comments on these sites.I am guessing they brainwashed young girls who complained:

“Oh, I just look pregnant when I relax my tummy muscles.”

I think I look down when taking a gander at my gut. I can sympathise with what the girl above felt. However, all is not lost.

Phisiotherapy exercises


This is the homework I got from my physiotherapist when I went complaining of a sore back down the right side. She did a short assessment and explained to me about how muscles must stay in balance. I thought of the nearly 30 years I stretched up right-handed at the old chalk blackboards. No wonder!

These two exercises are basically intended to encourage better posture.




  1. Lying on your back with knees bent and arms by your side.Slowly lift pelvis back. x5

  2.  Bend both knees to right. x5

  3. To left. x5
  4. Do these 2/3 times daily


  1. Sit straight
  2. Keep shoulders down

  3. Do not use arms

  4. Slowly move shoulders across to meet one another

  5. Do x5/x4 daily


Add 1 or 2 regularly throughout the day.

This baby loves the bath Look at this little sweetie. Even thou the image is small you can easily see his relaxed tummy. If this were a video, his breathing would be most visible in his lower abdomen. We are born knowing instinctively the best way to breathe in a normal healthy way. Opera singers like Renee Fleming must re-learn correct breathing to sing her beat. Mindfulness practitioners like you are leaning to focus on your breathing in your preferred vivid area.

Somewhere along the line we lose it. If you are in panic mode your breathing gets very shallow, fast and high up in your chest in preparation for ‘fight or flight’. But we cannot stay in that state for long because it is draining and tiring.

Make sure you do as instructed in order to be balanced evenly on both sides. Practice when you are walking slowly somewhere

Why have stuck this image in here on a page devoted to bellies?

Well,  if you use these exercises to gain better posture, your tummy will be pulled naturally back and in. Your tummy will not look pregnant!

I still haven’t lost that old habit of pulling in. One baby step at a time.


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Dread of getting in the Shower can be eased with Mindfulness meditation exercise

Dread of getting in the Shower can be eased with Mindfulness meditation exercise

Hello fellow bloggers and Mindfulness peeps,

This situation is driving me bonkers. The revered Smithsonian magazine keeps sending me renewal forms when I have already paid. As it is we were getting two copies monthly after the balls-up they made the last time I dealt with them. I fear they will send three copies at a time. The doctors’ and dentists’ offices will be flooded with them. Does this happen to you?


the reason I am telling this because I went on the Smithsonian site and I saw articles flashing past. One was entitled, “Why Mind Wandering Can Be So Miserable, According to Happiness Experts” by one of their staffers, Libby Copeland. She is gloomy and anxious at the prospect of a shower. It sounds silly but maybe you can think of something you are irrationally afraid of. Libby is ripe for some Mindfulness training.

Mindfulness helps to help a woman afraid of the shower



The article, written by a skeptic, concerns the times in our daily lives when we realize that the mind is trying, usually ineffectually, to deal with matters beyond our control. Some of your multitasking is easy (remember to post that birthday card for your sister) other problems seem to have no solution (if your mother needs a care package). Or a past thought might be,” I know she doesn’t like me because…”This is Unmindfulness. You cannot do anything about these things at the moment.

If you are driving your car, you will not remember any scenery or landmarks because you are never aware of your ‘present.’ You skipped past the buzzard hanging in the sky, the yellow gorse flowers persisting even in the coldest weather, the sign for the plowing contest next week and so on… This attention in the moment is Mindfulness.



Mindfulness helps us to notice things in the moment. Gorse flowers smell like coconut

Gorse flowers smell like coconut.


The scientists say that we spend 47% of our waking hours mind-wandering. Nearly half! I know my mind drifts off even when I am watching a movie thriller. I also know I used to be much worse when I was working a primary school teacher. I hardly ever got jobs done to my satisfaction. Then the tendency is to beat yourself up about it and say what a loser you are.


You will be interested to know that we pay most attention (I.e., showing Mindfulness) during sex. We spend the most time – 67% – in grooming behaviors.


WANDERING IS WHAT MINDS DO. (Take this to heart)

So what about poor Libby? She knew that when she got in the shower, all her worst fears and worries would boil up. It had become a habit and so she hated showering. I think that is too bad because showers, except for baths, are the most calming, Mindfulness expressing things we can do for ourselves. Sometime I will have to try out my disco spinning lights gadget my daughter gave me for Christmas. Promise you won’t put tealights around your bath!


Well, with anxious apprehension, Libby stepped into the shower. She kept her attention on her breathing and felt different.

“As she says,  the trick is in recognizing the illusion—

“‘ah yes, there’s that ridiculous clown car of anxiety coming down the road again.

The saving grace, when I can manage to focus, is the present moment. ”





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